OBLINE,
I am not sure of what to make of your e-mail. I am not sure who to believe, you or my daughter. As a Mother I would tend to believe my daughter.
You need to understand my frustration with the whole situation. I would never make “Jennifer” stay here in Washington, of course it would be something (as a parent/grandparent) I would love. I am not conspiring with “Jennifer” to take your daughter away from you. If “Jennifer” says anything nice about you is that you are a “good Father” to your daughter. And which I am very thank full for.
If what you are telling me is correct I want what is best for my daughter and granddaughter. Stopping her from coming is wrong, but if “Jennifer” does not want to come that is fine. And I will be calling her and telling her so myself. We want to be a big part of your daughter’s life.
We have not come to see your daughter due to the fact that my mother is 83 and very ill. I have spent the last two years using my vacation time going to Arizona to be with her. In fact I spent a month helping take care of her earlier this year due to her falling, breaking her hip and having a heart attack. We had hoped that you and “Jennifer” would have come to see us. As we had asked her to do ever since your daughter was born. But you would not fly and “Jennifer” would not come alone. And just because we have not seen her does not mean in any way we don’t love and miss her always. We have pictures of her all over our home and speak of her always. I send her gifts and homemade item to her often. We will be coming to see your daughter in the future. Our lawyer will be in contact with yours, so please e-mail me his or hers phone number and address.
Thank You,
Jane and John Smith
“Jane”,
Take what you want from my email about “Jennifer”, she’s acting like a child and lieing to me, you and her friends, but I don’t expect anything from it. I only wrote what I did because I’m concerned for her, it won’t happen again. If I have any advice for you it would be not to push “Jen” away but to bring her home and get her some serious help, she’s expressed to me, twice, her thoughts of suicide and from her behavior I can only deduce, as a I wrote before, that she is being self-destructive. None of this would be an issue had she not began to ignore my daughter and side step her responsibilities.
Your daughter woke me up from sleeping last night so your son could talk to me, apparently I’m “ignorant”, even though I still spoke to him after reading his remarks. I didn’t get back to sleep until 10:30 and missed worked because of my lack of sleep. I’ll forward my attorney’s information after I speak with them but mind you, every hour we fight about this will be taking food from my daughter and if I have to dip into her savings account it will be hurting her future. If we must, we must, as the saying goes.
I’d really like to avoid all this drama and I wish I would have never sent my previous email. If I had known that “John” wouldn’t speak to “Jen” anymore I would’ve just went along with her ruse and taken the blame.
I’m sorry to her about your mother and had I known, my previous email would not have been so heavy on your lack of seeing my daughter. The impression that I get, from what “Jennifer” tells me, is that you both, and your son, despise me. And there is no way I’d come and stay with people who hate me or, for that matter, allow my daughter to stay with people who hate me. I don’t feel my decision to stop my daughter is wrong (morally), I even asked “Jen”: if my father had treated her the way you two have treated me, would she let my daughter stay with them? “Jen” said “no.”
Sincerely,
OBLINE
